Sure Why Not?

So as I sat down to write about the next thing that came to mind, I realize that that my family has suffered as of late because I was in my office most of the day typing, playing games on here, and even going through my hundred emails just to earn money for what exactly I'm not even sure of anymore. I am not a rich person and honestly keeping up with the Jones' is starting to make me really tired.  

I see parents push their kids into sports and stuff like that, why? to keep them busy and out of trouble... that is the answer I get when I ask them. 

OK here is a thought, sit down with your children and start asking questions for example... how was school.. or so have you met any new people .... if they ask you can we go to the Simpson's house I always ask them who are the parents, what time do you think you'll be home and if the mom and dad are going to be home.. upon receiving the answer my next question is always what is the phone number. 

 

Now some parents say you can't do that, aha but yes I can and I will.

My child.. my rules and guess what hey Johnny I love you and this is the way I can call to see if your OK, I know where you are at and if I need to come get you I have an Exact place to go BECAUSE I CARED ENOUGH TO ASK WHERE THEY WERE GOING TO BE.

I might mention that my boys are 13, 16 and 18. I have control of my family, I am really anal retentive when it comes to them and guess what, I told my 18 year old to move out and get a life.

And he did he is finishing High School on his own, he has a job and he is dealing with life as an adult.  Yes I miss him and I do love him but sometimes life is hard and you need to deal with it and I do not protect my kids from life's disappointments except the 16 year old who is autistic.

And trust me that is hard because he is at the age where he wants a girlfriend, but I am not ready to have another girl hanging out around the house yet, and I don't think he is ready to have one.  It would be nice to say to him OK you go out and do what you want BUT you have to be home at 6:00, for those of you that have a developmentally challenged child you know what I am talking about. 

As much as they want those strings cut, you just can't because you know the minute they walk out the door they are open to the freaks that might take advantage of them, not something I want to deal with either.  So as My very opinionated friend brought to my attention not so directly was Wrap him in bubble wrap, put him in the corner and fed him, bathe him and make sure he is dressed and all that good stuff because that is what is happening by "keeping him with you 24/7"  Thank you friend...  the errors of my way have been taken to heart.

After crying because I did not want to let him grow up quite that fast what have I done to him?

well I sheltered him, I didn't allow the trust I have allowed the other 2 and I have put a wedge in my relationship with my husband... OK not sure this worked out the way I had planned.. but what can I do to change this....   I had to let him be who he was and I had to let him experience the world and I HAD to let him have a life, along with my husband and myself, got it, did it, doing it.  Now I ask him Son do you want to go to the Smith's house he looks at me with that look only he has and says... SURE, WHY NOT?..... Be home at 6:00.